This post was originally published on “This Chair Rocks,” a website by Ashton Applewhite that also hosts Ashton’s blog Yo, Is This Ageist? Not only do I have to face the insecurity of not being attractive or witty enough to engage a man’s interest (supported by my 0/22 success rate for replies from men I have emailed), not I have to face that I am considered to OLD for many men my age.
I am a 37 year old woman and I am suffering through online dating.
You could even have left school early in order to earn money because your family needed it.
If your early years were lonely because of this then know that the latter years will be filled to capacity!
In his book “The Magic of Middle-Aged Women,” Daniel Evan Weiss sums up the sheer unfairness of the situation in this story from a friend. The ostensible justification is fertility, the proverbial ticking clock.When she was in her late teens, her uncle tried to set her up with a guy in his late twenties. Encountering the same man online 32 years later, she dropped him a note. Men are supposed to seek young babes with young eggs, and women to bag high-status provider types, which is why bankers marry bimbos.Leaving aside the fact that that decline in fertility has been way oversold, when’s the last time you heard a woman worrying that her date might be infertile?You possess great ambition and the drive to succeed so with some effort you should be able to rise to the top in whatever career you have chosen.The saying: ‘It took me 20 years to become an overnight success’ applies to you as you may have to put in a lot of hard work first but it is guaranteed for you if you put in the effort.